Rob Moshe

Thought I would try something different in this post.
Usually I try to share an idea (could be read as “opinion) that I have been thinking about.  The struggle that I have had with this in the past two years is, as a Coach I don’t give advice, or tell my clients what to do.  What I do is facilitate my clients own learning. I help them draw from the vast storehouse of knowledge that dwells in their Mind/Heart/Soul.  I ask questions that get them thinking and get them to go deeper.

So how can I balance my blogger idea sharing personal with my coaching persona?

What I want to try in this post is just to share my personal learning that I had today. It is a lesson for me. If it resonates with you great. If not that is perfectly fine. We are all unique.

Now about the Fiber:

Today I had an interesting Squash game.  For the past month I have been making a solid effort to eat healthier and exercise more.  I had expected that I would see drastic improvements in my Squash game but it didn’t seem to be happening just yet. I thought that my current exercise regime might be a bit taxing on my muscles and as a result effecting my swing.  But today I decided to stop focusing on what was not working and instead try to get more positive. I decided to Believe in my ability to win.  And you know what…. I lost the next four games.

Positive Mental Attitude = NADA

My lesson to self from the previous day was Get Centered. So I took a moment to center myself and thought a bit about my approach.  Then a thought popped into my head.  Don’t just believe it in my head, believe it in every fiber of my being.

Positive Mental Attitude In Every Fiber Of My Being = WOW

The next couple of games I was on fire. I went from being clobbered by my opponent to vaporizing him.

The experience was amazing. I could literally feel the energy in every part of my body. Mentally I was insanely alert. My body just flowed and my skin tingled in this incredibly focused state.

As I walked off the court I reflected on the impact of applying this to other areas of my life. The possibilities were endless.

If you have had a similar experience I would love to hear about it.

We resolve. We forget. We resolve. We forget.

For as long as people have been celebrating new years, they have been following this same pattern. They make large goals for the year ahead, and then as the exhaustion and hangover dissipate on the morning of January 2nd, the frenetic pace of life returns and, the resolutions of the week before are long forgotten.

If your journey is to the east and you travel south, you will never arrive at your destination.

We talk about goals of eating better, exercise, deep relationships, and overall discipline, and then we start are year with excessive eating and inebriation, meaningless kisses, and excessive sleeping and time wasting. Then as a result of our less than stellar choices, we reinforce the negative and make the possibility of achieving our goals all the more challenging.

As you live your moments, so you live your days, week, months, years and LIFE.

Making massive changes in you year and life can be overwhelming, intimidating and debilitating. To change a moment is manageable almost easy. Taking control of those moments will lead to massive life change.

Setting the stage for tomorrows performance.

You have some goals for this year. What is the goal that you want to work on? What is the process, the steps involved to reach that goal. When the stage crew sets the stage for a performance they put one piece, work on one detail at a time. Each piece/detail is not the set, the set is a result and combination of all the pieces.
A goal is not some thing we do, it is something we achieve, and we achieve it through taking the proper steps (one at a time) and the combination of those steps will result in the achievement of your goals.

A new way to enter 2010

Don’t repeat the same process that you have been doing all these years and expect different results.  For tonight just enjoy yourself (responsibly).

Tomorrow can be the beginning of your finest year. To achieve that you must begin with thinking.  Nothing heavy mind you. Partying all night and deep thought don’t really go hand in hand.

For starters just take some time on January 1st to ask your self some thoughtful questions.

What was great about me in 2009?

What strengths did I see in my self?

How did these great moments enhance my life?

What could I do different in 2010 to make my life even better? (answer in the positive)

How would it improve my life?

You’ll know that all these questions focus on the positive.  Positive Focus. Positive State of Mind. Positive Outcomes.

Sun Set. Sun Rise

A year will end and a new year will arrive, you have no controll over this. How you step into the year is in the sphere of your control.
Step forward, step with purpose, step with strength. Be Great.

Enjoy Your Success In 2010

Rob

Enjoying a reflective walk in the forest with a client yesterday, I noticed that several times he used the phrase If only.

Today as I was sitting at my computer, and as a result of a recent email, I checked a quote for a stock I once had invested in. When I sold it, I made a profit. It eventually went down to 50 cents, but today it was trading $5.

I immediately found myself thinking, If only I had kept that stock. If only I had bought more shares when it was at 50 cents.

If only… If only.

What are some of your If onlys?

• If only I would have married…
• If only I would have dated…
• If only I would have studied…
• If only I would have chosen…
• If only I had… I could have had…

Where does this type of thinking lead you?

Returning to the Past

Probably back into the past. It reminds you of choices you could have made and failures that resulted from not having made that set of choices. Perhaps it leaves you feeling frustrated or depressed, because you’re not nearly as far along as you’d like to be.

How well does this type of thinking serve you? How well does it help you get closer to achieving your goals and dreams?

As you take a moment to reflect, I am sure you realize that being frustrated with the If only’s  and What ifs of your past doesn’t serve you in a positive way. Living with past disappointments holds you back from achieving successes in the future.

So what can you do if struck by an If only?

ROAR

I’m not suggesting that you pretend you’re a lion and roar away, although I wouldn’t be surprised if that released some endorphins, made you smile and increased your overall feeling of well being.

Reflect – Take your self back to the situation. Try to understand what thoughts and feelings were at play when you made your choices.

Options – If a similar situation were to present itself again, what choices might you make? What thoughts and emotions might you draw upon?

Action – Once you decide the options that would work best, what will be your action plan when a similar situation would present itself in the future.

Reflect Forward – Imagine a time in the future when this situation presents itself again. See yourself taking Action on the Options  you have chosen. Spend the time to savor the feelings that arise from this forward reflective process.

By going through this type of process, you free yourself from the negative life impact of living in the past and instead harness your life learning to drive yourself forward to future successes.

This is going to be a group reflective post. Its less about my opinion and more about your thoughts.

I want to know what you think your life would look like if you consistently:

• Ate healthy.
• Got your required amount of sleep.
• Exercised daily.
• Focused on the positive.

How would your life be different if you practiced these four things?

How do you think society as a whole would look like if these 4 things were practiced?

If you are doing all these things already please share with everyone your experiences.

Please comment below.