Rob Moshe

It’s hard to believe that it has been almost a month since my last post. On the other hand it is quite believable, as will soon be clear.

About two weeks ago I was speaking with one of my colleagues. He is the president of his volunteer organization and he was feeling burned out. I could see that he was taking on a lot in his desire to succeed and I could see how that was negatively impacting him. I had recently read about Deepak Chopra’s daily routine and shared it with him.

Deepak gets up at 4am does two hours of meditation and two hours of exercise, he then goes golfing for 4 hours and then has a leisurely lunch with good friends for 2 hours. He starts his work day at 2pm and is in bed by 10pm. I am sure between 2 and 10 he also spends time with family and has dinner.

So assuming he puts in 5-6 hours a day, Chopra manages to write 2 bestsellers a year and go on his many speaking engagements. I imagine that he did not start this habit after he became successful, but its because of these habits that he became who he is today.

I explained to my colleague if he wanted to succeed he needed to stop trying to accomplish everything and narrow his focus. And by focusing on one thing and bringing it to brilliant fruition he would be able to achieve far more.

Ironically I had a coaching session with my coach (yes even I need one) later that day, and when I couldn’t think of anything I wanted to work on for that session, my coach suggested we focus on how I manage to function when I take on so much. Talk about dejavu, but this time the lens was on me. By the end of the session I too realized that I have been juggling way to many things.

After the call I sat down with my wife to see just how many things I’ve been juggling. The count was no less than 10. The next obvious question was, if success is part of my game plan what was my next step? The answer was simple. Leave the juggling to the entertainers but remove it from my life.

Since then I have already removed 4 self imposed obligations from the list already. My goal is to get down to two.

Where are you at??

Coaching Questions:

How many things are you juggling right now?

How is this preventing you from truly succeeding in life?

What would your life look like if you dedicated your energy towards one or two objectives?

What is your next step?

A good friend of mine (C.G.)has been battling cancer for the past year and a half. When he was originally diagnosed, the prognosis was basically get your things in order there is no coming through this. C.G’s basic response was “If you are not here to help me win, I will find someone who is”. He was very careful to distance himself from anyone who thought that this was a loosing battle. He only surrounded himself with people who were supportive of, and believed in his ability to survive the disease. After a few months of Chemo, much to the surprise of the doctors, he was able to beat it and go into temporary remission. Unfortunately a few months later the Cancer returned with a lot more determination.

Again C.G prepared for battle, not willing to give up in anyway. And no matter how strong the cancer attacked C.G. tried to fight back.

At the begging of the week I went to visit C.G and was shocked by his recent changes. He had taken a major turn for the worse in the two weeks since I’d last seen him. Later in the week I was told that two weeks prior he had spoken to the doctor and was told that there is nothing left to do, and it’s all palliative care now.  What was interesting, was the fact that there didn’t seem to be a major physical reason for the health change. The main difference was that when I went to speak to C.G. that day, it was the first time I really heard him talking about dying.

I can’t say this for a fact, but I really wonder if the turn in his health was less about the disease itself and more about the mental shift that takes place.

I beleive that he will find the strength within to keep fighting and with G-d’s help overcome this challenge.

The lesson here is the power of your thoughts. C.G. new right from the start that the only chance he has it to keep a positive mental attitude and surround himself with people of the same mindset. Negative thoughts are not only mentally debilitating, but can also effect a person physically as well.

Creating a positive and tranquil mindset can help to eliminate dis-Ease from your mind and body.

Activity:

As you enter the weekend, take some time to reflect on the mental environment that you are creating for yourself.

Are you allowing negative thoughts and people to enter?
What steps can you take to create a more positive world for yourself?
What is the goal you are moving towards that will help you remain positive and calm throughout the challenging times.

How do you want to be?

Enjoy the weekend and have a wonderful Mothers Day.

If you are getting ready to read a post about products you can buy for that ’special someone’ this coming Mothers Day, click back or do another search on Google.

This post is my thoughts on a non or less commercial approach to the day. These gifts are free, and at the same time rare and priceless.

Here are my 4 Top Gifts For Mothers Day.

Love

Though this may seem obvious, given that the theme of the day is expressing your love and appreciation, it can easily turn into something done out of a sense of obligation. Take some time to prepare for the day. For the rest of the week spend a few moments each day (you don’t have to watch all the commercials) reflecting on all that Mom has done for you till now. All the lunches, and scraped knees. Being there for you at many of the important stages of your life. Giving of herself so you could become who you are today. Really build the awareness so when the day arrives your love is truly felt. Be purposeful in directing your love.

Sincerity

Now that you have cultivated your love and appreciation, and you have become aware of your desire to show gratitude, be sincere in your expression. Don’t buy a last minute gift, or something that you like (ie. superimpose your tastes on them). Take the time to pick something that shows your appreciation of the person, and that you care enough to buy something that is significant to that person. And remember its not how much you spend but what you spend it on. A picture collage of special moments in a simple frame can be more meaningful than an expensive piece of jewelry.

Compassion/Sensitivity

Unfortunately there may be people that you know that are not on another persons Mothers Day radar. Maybe there is a friend that doesn’t have children yet or has lost a child. Maybe their children took a wrong turn in life and they have not had the chance to re-connect. Mothers Day does not have to only be about being a Mom, it can also recognize that which being a mother represents. Recognizing those that are caring, giving and nurturing. Every HUMAN being needs to feel loved, respected and valued, and if they are within your range of view they should be able to feel that from you. With this in mind I would like to suggest something. If there is a woman you know that has had a positive impact in your life, take a moment to show gratitude to them. It could be a  card, a small gift, or just a verbal statement of appreciation.

Commitment

Imagine what it would feel like to get only one hug a year, or one moment of encouragement a year. When you truly love and appreciate someone you let them know it on  a regular basis. Commitment means you show that this expression of love and appreciation is something more than a one in 365 day event. Love and appreciation is something that should be expressed on a regular basis. This doesn’t mean that you need to by mom presents regularly (though I’m sure she wont mind monthly trips to the spa). It means an ongoing recognition that Mom holds a special place in your life. Calling regularly to see how she is doing, will far surpass any one day of gifts and gratitude.

Ways that you can show love on a regular basis :

• Greeting mom with a warm smile/hug.
• Make it a point to stop what you are doing and give some time to Mom and when you do give her your full attention.
• Call once in a while just to say “I love you Mom” Thanks for _______. (This is especially appropriate when you become a parent and have one of those AHA moments of the sacrifices and giving your mom made for you, just like you are making those same sacrifices for your children now)
• Buy a nice card just because, and write something sweet (yes you can be sweet)
• Say I love you (The obvious is often the most missed)
• Call Mom and take her out for a bite to eat, just to hang out and see how she is doing.

These are just some of the ideas that I have. Please share some of your own.

 

As you can see these gifts are not exclusive to Mothers Day. Love, sincerity, compassion, and commitment are gift we should be giving to each other all year round. Don’t wait for a specific date, start today.

Mom. Thanks. I Love You.

Rob

Well after about 20+ takes, I finally made my first podcast for my Online and Interactive Coaching Program . I haven’t figured out how to get it to play directly from the blog, but I’m sure I will get to that soon.

I would appreciate your feedback on it.

If you would like to participate in the development of the program and receive free coaching in the process. Please go to this post The Benefit Is Mutual. and sign up to be a beta tester.

Here is the link to the podcast:

www.RobMoshe.com/RobMosheCoachIntro.mp3