Rob Moshe

If you are getting ready to read a post about products you can buy for that ’special someone’ this coming Mothers Day, click back or do another search on Google.

This post is my thoughts on a non or less commercial approach to the day. These gifts are free, and at the same time rare and priceless.

Here are my 4 Top Gifts For Mothers Day.

Love

Though this may seem obvious, given that the theme of the day is expressing your love and appreciation, it can easily turn into something done out of a sense of obligation. Take some time to prepare for the day. For the rest of the week spend a few moments each day (you don’t have to watch all the commercials) reflecting on all that Mom has done for you till now. All the lunches, and scraped knees. Being there for you at many of the important stages of your life. Giving of herself so you could become who you are today. Really build the awareness so when the day arrives your love is truly felt. Be purposeful in directing your love.

Sincerity

Now that you have cultivated your love and appreciation, and you have become aware of your desire to show gratitude, be sincere in your expression. Don’t buy a last minute gift, or something that you like (ie. superimpose your tastes on them). Take the time to pick something that shows your appreciation of the person, and that you care enough to buy something that is significant to that person. And remember its not how much you spend but what you spend it on. A picture collage of special moments in a simple frame can be more meaningful than an expensive piece of jewelry.

Compassion/Sensitivity

Unfortunately there may be people that you know that are not on another persons Mothers Day radar. Maybe there is a friend that doesn’t have children yet or has lost a child. Maybe their children took a wrong turn in life and they have not had the chance to re-connect. Mothers Day does not have to only be about being a Mom, it can also recognize that which being a mother represents. Recognizing those that are caring, giving and nurturing. Every HUMAN being needs to feel loved, respected and valued, and if they are within your range of view they should be able to feel that from you. With this in mind I would like to suggest something. If there is a woman you know that has had a positive impact in your life, take a moment to show gratitude to them. It could be a  card, a small gift, or just a verbal statement of appreciation.

Commitment

Imagine what it would feel like to get only one hug a year, or one moment of encouragement a year. When you truly love and appreciate someone you let them know it on  a regular basis. Commitment means you show that this expression of love and appreciation is something more than a one in 365 day event. Love and appreciation is something that should be expressed on a regular basis. This doesn’t mean that you need to by mom presents regularly (though I’m sure she wont mind monthly trips to the spa). It means an ongoing recognition that Mom holds a special place in your life. Calling regularly to see how she is doing, will far surpass any one day of gifts and gratitude.

Ways that you can show love on a regular basis :

• Greeting mom with a warm smile/hug.
• Make it a point to stop what you are doing and give some time to Mom and when you do give her your full attention.
• Call once in a while just to say “I love you Mom” Thanks for _______. (This is especially appropriate when you become a parent and have one of those AHA moments of the sacrifices and giving your mom made for you, just like you are making those same sacrifices for your children now)
• Buy a nice card just because, and write something sweet (yes you can be sweet)
• Say I love you (The obvious is often the most missed)
• Call Mom and take her out for a bite to eat, just to hang out and see how she is doing.

These are just some of the ideas that I have. Please share some of your own.

 

As you can see these gifts are not exclusive to Mothers Day. Love, sincerity, compassion, and commitment are gift we should be giving to each other all year round. Don’t wait for a specific date, start today.

Mom. Thanks. I Love You.

Rob

Well after about 20+ takes, I finally made my first podcast for my Online and Interactive Coaching Program . I haven’t figured out how to get it to play directly from the blog, but I’m sure I will get to that soon.

I would appreciate your feedback on it.

If you would like to participate in the development of the program and receive free coaching in the process. Please go to this post The Benefit Is Mutual. and sign up to be a beta tester.

Here is the link to the podcast:

www.RobMoshe.com/RobMosheCoachIntro.mp3

Over the next month I will be putting together an online/offline Personal Coaching Program.  It will be a combination of Informational videos, web based assessments and phone coaching.  While I am putting it together I will be giving the participants complimentary coaching sessions. What I will request on the participants part is honest feedback.

If you would like to be part of this project please fill out the Beta Testers for Personal Coaching Program form below. If you would like to get some more information about coaching and what it can do for you please read this link What Is Coaching

-Rob

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Beta Testers for Personal Coaching Program

Over the weekend I was reading a book on Tranquility. The idea of the book was that when our mind is in an angry, aggravated, frustrated state, it is almost impossible to have true happiness. It is only through the development of a tranquil mind state that one can hope to achieve happiness and peace.

In the book the author used an equation:

Expectations - Reality = Anger

If you have a high expectation and the reality falls short then whatever is left over is your anger with not achieving your expectation.

For example a dictator who rules with an iron fist. His expectation of how he wishes to be treated is 100. A servant who is doing his best might make a mistake on a given day and treat the dictator at a 80. The difference of 20 is the anger that the dictator will have, which would probably lead to the servants death.

Expectation 100

Reality      -  80

Anger          20

Now take a person who does not have high expectations. Lets give him a number of 20. He tries his best and the results he gets is 60. His anger is a -40 ie. he has no anger, he has tranquility. And because of his tranquil state he can enjoy the results of his effort.

Expectations  20

Reality         -60

Anger          -40 (tranquility)

So our of this came my morning reflection. 
How much greater would my success be if I lowered my expectations?

At first the thought didn’t sit so well. If I don’t have high expectations then where will my drive come from. I need to have super high expectations. But the problem would be that when reality would fall short (even if its marginal), I would end up getting frastrated and often end up loosing valuable productive time. Instead of getting better I would be focused on the self anger of not hitting my target.

There had to be another element. Then it came to me.

I have to set my sights very high.

I need to go for the gold in all I do, be my best.

How does this help?

If my focus is great success but my expectations are low. Then each time I fall short of the goal a few things will happen.

If I have some success - I will be able to celebrate the success and the joy of that success no matter how small will motivate me to move to the next level.

If I experience failure - Because my expectations are low I will not get caught up in frustration. Therefore I will be able to remain calm and objective. And because my sights are set very high, I will see this as a stepping stone to move forward and not as a set back towards defeat.

I still have to reflect further, but I would appreciate your reflections.