We are constantly told that our lives are a reflection of out thoughts and actions. People who think negatively all the times often lead very sad and depressing lives, and people who think positively often lead very fulfilling lives.
So in your marriage, are you choosing to think lovingly about your spouse?
When you were dating you were always focused on the positive, and as a result you had a beautiful relationship that lead up to marriage.
But then for some reason after marriage we begin to find things that we want to change and correct in our spouse. And then it gets to the point when we stop focusing on the good at all and all we focus on is the bad. We then wonder were the love went.
Try this. Whenever you find you want to correct something in your spouse. First decide if it is really so necessary. In most cases you will find it is never necessary. Second, think positive thoughts about your spouse.
About your husband – Loving, dedicated, handsome, caring, supportive, good father, etc.
About your wife – Beautiful, Loving, graceful, self sacrificing, wonderful mother, etc.
I have often found that when I am starting to feel frustrated about something my spouse does I just begin to focus on how grateful I am that I have been blessed with such a beautiful and amazing wife.
Give it a try. For the next few minutes, just think about how special your spouse is, how fortunate you are to have such a spouse. Reflect on that feeling. I’m sure you’ll agree that it is much better than the feeling you have when you criticize.