Rob Moshe

This post was written back in 08, but some things never go out of style.

If you are getting ready to read a post about products you can buy for that ‘special someone’ this coming Valentines Day, click back or do another search on Google.

This post is my thoughts on a non or less commercial approach to the day. These gifts are free, and at the same time rare and priceless.

Here are my 4 Top Gifts For Valentines Day.

Love

Though this may seem obvious, given that the theme of the day is expressing your love, it can easily turn into something done out of a sense of obligation. Take some time to prepare for the day. For the rest of the week spend a few moments each day (you don’t have to watch all the commercials) reflecting on your love for that special person. Really build the awareness so when the day arrives your love is truly felt. Be purposeful in directing your love.

Sincerity

When you have that person you love and you are now strongly aware of that love, be sincere in your expression. Don’t buy a last minute gift, or something that you like (ie. superimpose your tastes on them). Take the time to pick something that shows your appreciation of the person, and that you care enough to buy something that is significant to that person (guys, lingerie is not the favored gift). And remember its not how much you spend but what you spend it on. A picture collage of special moments in a simple frame can be more meaningful then a diamond eternity ring (don’t worry she’ll still like the ring)

Compassion/Sensitivity

Unfortunately there may be people that you know that are not on another persons Valentines radar. Every HUMAN being needs to feel loved, respected and valued, and if they are within your range of view they should be able to feel that from you. With this in mind I would like to suggest two things. One, choose a random acquaintance and recognize them on V-Day. Two, it is not possible to recognize everyone so be sensitive to someone that might not have any Valentines. Don’t go around comparing with others what you got, it might make others feel uncomfortable and left out. The day should be the recognition of love between two people, not a “look what great present I got” day.

Compassion and Sensitivity is a great way to express love for your fellow man.

Commitment

No this doesn’t mean that you should pressure him into marriage or talk about moving in together. Commitment means you show that this expression of love is something more than a one in 365 day event. Love is something that should be expressed on a regular basis. This doesn’t mean that you need to buy him/her presents regularly. It means an ongoing recognition that the person is special in your life.

Ways that you can show love on a regular basis :

• Greet your partner at the door with a warm smile/hug.
• Stop what you are doing (watching the game/playing on the computer) and give your full attention.
• Call in the middle of the day just to say “I love you“
• Buy a nice card just because, and write something sweet (yes you can be sweet)
• Say I love you (The obvious is often the most missed)
• Bring home her favorite chocolate
• Bring home his favorite sports magazine
• Candle light dinner.
• Go out on a date (more for married couples)

These are just some of the ideas that I have. Please share some of your own.

As you can see these gifts are not exclusive to Valentines Day, and for those that think that V-day is the only time to express your love and affection, Then you are looking for love in all the wrong places.

Coming from a Coach this is a surprising statement. I’m supposed to have  a positive relationship with you, hold you as creative resourceful and whole, and be highly focused on helping you think.

Whats the meaning here?

Last night was a busy night. I had to leave by 7:30 and my wife was having a group of moms come over to prepare loot bags for a school program. The kids that bed time was the time to fight over everything and through endless tantrums. By 7:15 our patience was really starting to wear thin. By 7:20 we were starting (lets say more in the middle) to lose our cool.

Now the fighters and tantrum throwers are 7 and 5 years old. And even though we sometimes expect them to act like adults, the reality is they are normal healthy kids and fighting and tantrums are part of what they do.

So why do two adults loose their cool over this?

One of the thoughts that came to my mind was that we were getting frustrated because we were concerned about what others were going to think.

You see for us the best response would have been to ignore the kids while they were having a cow. There is no communicating with them when they are in this state. They would eventually calm down and then we could get them to bed.  But because guests were coming we needed to stop this right away, because we can’t have our kids acting this way when they arrive. What would they think??

So we got frustrated, we raised our voices they raised their voices, they tantrumed more we got frustrated more and by the time we finally got them into bed we were all drained and irritable.

Why?  Because We cared about what other would think.

If we didn’t care we would have taken the better approach. The tantruming might have been shorter and the interactions healthier, by the time the kids got to sleep we would have been more relaxed and less exhausted. The learning experience would have been much better for the kids as well.

Sometimes we will break our standards, step out of alignment with our values and goals because we are worried about What others will think? We are so concerned with their interpretation of what they see that we are willing to sacrifice the best paths in our life’s journey.  Not only do we prevent our own growth, but the frustration of being out of alignment causes us to not function at peak performance in other areas of our life as well. When our mind is in a negative state it is hard to accomplish much positive.

So though it is important to care and respect our fellow man. When it comes to making the right choices in life, sometimes you cant give a Damn what they think.

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Coming of the heels of Healthy Month, I have recently begun Learning Month.

For over 8 years I had been trying to get back into better physical health. Though I worked out 4 times a week, it seemed to be more of a counterbalance to my unhealthy life style. I wouldn’t gain weight, unless I stopped playing, but I wasn’t really feeling more physically fit.

In the middle of December 2009 we went away for a family vacation for a week. By the end of the week after filling my body with way to much junk. I decided it was time to change the pattern.

I needed a new approach.

If I tell you not to think about a pink elephant, the first thing that you will see in your mind is a pink elephant.

If I tell you there are no red cars on the highway today you will see more red cars than usual.

We focus more on the images than on the do’s or do nots that precede them.

I realized that stating the intention No More Junk Food, was not going to work for two reasons.

One was because all I would be seeing in my mind is Junk Food and then want to eat it even more and two because it was a totally undefined intention.

So here is what I did… I asked my wife What would our lives look like if we ate healthy for a month?

We spent about 2-3 min answering the question. Things like Vibrancy, more energy, healthier skin, lose weight, save money and more came up.

Then I asked What are the benefits of eating junk food? Aside from laughing and the question and emotional comfort food, nothing much else came up.

So I asked If there is such benefit to eating healthy, would it be worthwhile to try it for a MONTH?

And Healthy Month was born.

The month ended this past Monday.  Thank G-d we accomplished our objective. I lost 20lb, I’m leaner, stronger and have more energy.  My wife was in great shape to begin with but she has gotten stronger from doing more intense yoga workouts.

And now with healthy month ended I have developed the healthy eating habit. I just prefer healthy now.

And Now Learning Month

I suddenly realized that I have the opportunity to accomplish 12 personal development objectives this year. This is pretty massive when we can rarely follow through on one.

For some reason I began to reflect on my evenings. Usually after the kids go to sleep I putter around, pretend to do some work, watch a movie or just wander around aimlessly.

So I asked myself the question What would my life look like a month from now if I spent two hours learning 5 nights a week after the kids go to sleep?

WOW. 40 hours focused on cultivating my mind. I cant even imagine

I was sitting with a group of people at a 2hr workshop and the question that was asked was, Where would you be if you weren’t here tonight?

More than 50% of the ppl would have been doing something that takes little skill, shuts down your brain, has no true value and is an utter time waster….It’s scary that we all now that I am talking about watching TV or mindless net surfing.

I sat there smiling knowing that if I wasn’t at the workshop working my mind, I would have been at the local study hall working my mind.

Its never to late to make the best of your life. All you need to do is start with a month.

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I am really passionate about coaching.

From day one when I started my program back in 2007,  I knew that I had finally found something that truly connected to who I am.

I love helping people grow ~ Through coaching I am able to show you that  you are creative, resourceful and whole. I am able to coach you towards strategies for success in life that are perfectly suited for your unique self. And above all the coaching process creates independence. You cultivate the path of self-directed learning and are able to carry yourself forward without my constant support.

I love the newness of change ~ I have a strong entrepreneurial spirit. I love to build, created and improve. I love to go against the grain.  I am energized when I have to work hard to bring something into being.  I don’t enjoy sameness, stagnation or monotonous tasks.  Coaching truly indulges my entrepreneurial nature.  Each coaching relationship brings with it a newness, for when in comes to our thinking processes no two people are remotely the same.  As a coach I get to enjoy learning from you as well.  I see new ways of looking at the world, new perspectives.  As well I have the privileged of coaching this greatness out of you.  Coaching you to realize all the potential that you have access to.

I Want To Coach You To Your Greatness

By August 09 I was just finishing off a major phase of my Professional Coaching training.  I was coaching clients daily and gaining a good momentum. Then I had to make an abrupt stop ( read Dec. 25 post http://bit.ly/8FLthb ). I am ready to return now and I just want to be in my passion, and that means non stop coaching. Coaching you to success.

Pro Bono

For the next three months I am offering Professional Coaching free of charge.  You will get to experience the positive  life changing impact of 5 complimentary Coaching sessions (a $750 value).

This coaching will take place either on the phone via skype or if you are in the GTA then we can coach in person.

Together in each 45min session we will:

• Choose an area of focus.
• Clarify Goals, Values and Strengths.
• Overcome your inner critic.
• Discover your options for achieving your goals.
• Implement and action strategy.

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