After dropping my little guy off to Kindergarten today, I was driving past a local high school and saw a sight that I found sad and pathetic. There were three girls walking out of the school. One of them prob ably 16-18 years old was walking with her jacket fully open (it was minus 10 degrees outside) wearing a high cut shirt, that was very exposing and a shirt to match. At that moment two thoughts came to mind. Either the girl was just plain stupid, or she was a hooker / prostitute in training.
What are these parents thinking?
“Oh Billy. This is one of our proudest moments, we have gotten rid of Trixi’s ability to think and she is finaly ready to sell herself for sex. Why just last night she said to me “Mama you’re right, protection really is a waste of time”
And now for some tips on how to cultivate quality prostitutes
Now for full effectiveness I reccomend starting young.
- Plaster the walls of your newborn prostitutes room with sexually explicit pictures. It’s important to have her focus on what is important. If you are an underage parent you can just buy one of those teen magazines, they already are trying to help you.
- Only have books in the house that sexually stimulating. It is important that you don’t have any ethical or philosophical or moral books, this will just cause thinking and could damage your crop.
As your daughter reaches puberty and begins to develop, make sure you dress her in a manner that will cause older men to stare at her body and have in appropriate thougts. When you dress your slut, maybe ask the neighbor to come buy. If he spends more then a second looking at her face you know that she is not dressed properly. You want to make sure that during conversation he is spending 99% of his time looking at her exposed body parts.
Make sure to throw your little lady a “loose your virginity party”, if you have done your job well this should happen by age 14. This is a very important step, you want her to be proud of her accomplishments, and be motivated to achieve more.
Create a reward system.
For every 5 new men she sleeps with per month you can get her a Brittany Spears DVD. This has to be paying customers though, her highschool classmates and frebies dont count. Though if she sleeps with the football team and brings home two victory rings then you might want to have a small celebration.
I could have made more obscene suggestions but I don’t use certain language, and don’t really like to take my thoughts in that direction.
Now I hope you realize I am joking, but parents COME ON. What sort of daughter are you growing?
Here are some things to reflect on.
What is my daughter reading?
What is my daughter watching?
What is my daughter talking about with her friends? (No. They don’t have the right to keep everything they do private)
When I encourage her to dress a certain way. Where will people be looking when they interact with her?
What values am I instilling in her?
Is it all about the way she looks or am I developing her mind?
Who are her role models?
After you have gone through these questions, go through them again but this time put “you” in the questions instead of your daughter.
I don’t think any loving parent wants their daughter to be a sex object. But the reality is girls are looking more and more like sex objects everyday. The average age for kids to have sex now is 14.
Life has gotten busy and we are spending way to much time on autopilot, letting media and advertising set our social standards.
Hit the stop button. Wake up to what is happening in your world, its becoming empty and meaningless.
Pay attention to what your children are watching and doing. You are their greatest role model and they look up to you.
Help them acheive greatness.
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August 29th, 2008 at 5:10 pm
Pretty well developed plan for ‘tutes.
Maybe you should be a politician/economic developer/pimp.
August 30th, 2008 at 8:05 am
It is distressing that girls are becoming sexualized young and this continues into adulthood. You see it everywhere – on TV, in magazines, in advertisements, and on and on. Even in politics. I was astounded that Rush Limbaugh was so excited because McCain had picked “a babe” for his running mate. That was all Rush seemed to see in her. This makes women into objects, not people.
August 30th, 2008 at 8:47 pm
Came in via problogger, enjoyed your thoughts, but this is indeed a very difficult subject to navigate tactfully.
Wendy Shalit’s “A Return to Modesty†brings forth standards from Orthodox Judaism to solve this problem, but I dunno. It really is the case that most women I know who spend time being excessively modest are really cold and haven’t grown up much. I’m not exactly impious, and I was forced to admit that many living a way I thought ideal really were worse off for it.
The trick is that modesty has to be natural. As you point out above, the values and role models are critical. If a girl wants to be better and not flaunt her sexuality, that has to be a desire from within.
This is where the Western tradition – esp. the Christian/Judaic tradition – goes haywire. Fallenness strongly implies that the desire to be modest cannot exist naturally. Whether one holds that one simply “returns†or there is “redemption†necessary, the problem is that what is needed is nothing less than a supernatural power to tell us the Law and ask for obedience. If the Law is written on our hearts, that is the day Jeremiah longs for – it is not our time.
Because of this problem, a lot of what you see in popular culture that encourages flaunting one’s sexuality also is accompanied by a rabid atheism and in some cases a very smart libertarianism, where one can do as one likes if one has the means financial and emotionally. That latter libertarianism, increasing in popularity, is an offshoot of our valuing success and tying our success, in some small way, to our being blessed.
I think the only way to confront the problem is to look elsewhere. Miyazaki, who wrote and made the anime film “Spirited Away,†said that he was disgusted with the cheap romance being fed to younger Japanese girls. That’s not what’s on their minds at all as they’re growing; they want to know how to be there for their families, they want a sense of stability and continuity in addition to being playful. Now it happens that good anime tends to be far more sexual than we would like, but in a way we just haven’t seen much in this culture – sexuality there really is about figuring out what love is, whereas with us it is a sign of rebellion or fallenness, take your pick. A previous age in the West that believed didn’t have this problem; in our age, the two “signs†reinforce the other.
August 30th, 2008 at 8:48 pm
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August 31st, 2008 at 3:51 am
Thank you for kindly visiting my blog and inviting me to visit yours. Your rant is certainly a worthwhile one,and as a mother I agree we need to do what we can to protect our teenage girls from themselves. Sometimes I wonder if they realise the (sexual) power they have.
August 31st, 2008 at 10:16 pm
Thanks for stopping by my site.
I’m with you on this rant….and appreciate the humor to get a good point across.
September 1st, 2008 at 2:08 am
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September 1st, 2008 at 2:42 am
This is an interesting piece, Rob, written in a style that’s not unlike my own.
Parents allowing their children too much freedom is at the crux of many of today’s problems – lack or discipline, lack of moral centre, etc. It’s an important issue that many parents fail miserably to address.
I’m not advocating a return to Victorian values – God forbid! – but I do think the young need some form or guidance. I don’t hold with religious brainwashing, but spirituality and philosophy (whether gleened from religious teaching or not) would be an excellent place to start to repair our societies.
Good luck with your blog, Rob,
Steve N. Lee
author of eco-blog http://www.lionsledbysheep.com
and suspense thriller ‘What if…?’
September 1st, 2008 at 3:15 am
It is not always the fault of parents but our life style.
September 1st, 2008 at 7:56 am
Hi, Rob. Thanks for stopping by my blog to read my writing project submission.
Amen to this post! I am a girlscout leader and this topic comes up sadly too often.
I answered your response on my blog.
September 1st, 2008 at 3:59 pm
Wow, Rob, I agree with Ashok: this is a very touchy subject here!
Now I’m not a parent here, so I cannot pretend to know where you’re coming from, but I was a kid with a decent upbringing.
I’m all about being natural and seeking balance, as you know after visiting my site, Live Lighter. And I believe sexuality is a very important and natural essence to every human being. That said, there is a time and place for everything.
I have also experienced and seen the detrimental effects from parents who exert too much control over their children. There’s something to be said about having faith in your children AND your parenting skills. It is important to let children make their own mistakes, as we never stop making mistakes in life.
By allowing them to make their own mistakes (within reason, of course) you teach them that it’s ok to make mistakes. Actually, I’d argue that mistakes are the ONLY way to learn and grow as an individual.
September 2nd, 2008 at 12:48 pm
Thanks for all the great Feedback.
Ashok.
It’s interesting that you mention Wendy Shalit, The Shalit’s are good family friends of mine.
I guess the issue is where is the modesty coming from. I can say that I have seen a fair share of modes women in my community and the majority are warm and friendly.
I agree modesty does have to be natural in the sense that one internalizes the significance and incorporates it into their life. Modesty is not about covering every part of your body with clothing (though it can be an expression of modesty). For example if a Muslim woman was wearing a Technicolor Hijab and dancing at the corner of Yonge and Bloor, would you say “Hey look at that modest woman over there”?
An example of modesty could be the Queen of England. Her clothing is clean, simple, non-sexual and appropriate for the occasion. Her bearing is reserved yet present. She carries herself in a manner that shows she is conscious of the responsibility of her role and the fact that every act she does is being modeled by others. She is refined and articulate. She uses her mind to define herself not her body.
The idea of fallenness specifically means that it is natural. Have you ever observed beach goers? The ones that get there fully clothed are best for observing. They get undressed almost nervously, they are probably thinking “what the heck am I doing stripping before a crowd and prancing around in my underwear.” That is the natural reaction. Unfortunately socialization causes us to override our nature and go with the flow.
I think if people would increase their self value, recognizing the value of their mind and the sanctity of their bodies, modesty would become the latest craze.
Di.
I think they are very clear on their sexual powers and media teaches them to use it as a vehicle to acheive their objectives.
Amit.
If when you refer to lifestyle, you are referring to the parents lifestyle, then it is the fault of the parents. During the formative years all a child wants is to be like Mommy and Daddy. If parents carry themselves in an immodest manner because they are “Grownups” , then the children in their desire to grow up quickly and be like Mom and Dad will model the same habits.
A general rule should be “If it wouldn’t be good for your children, it wouldn’t be healthy for the parents either”
Head Health Nut.
I agree with you It is natural and healthy, but not something to be displayed publicly. The very act of public display shows the lack of appreciation for its sanctity.
With regards to exerting excessive control and children making their own mistakes.
As I mentioned to Amit. Parenting is about being a role model. Live the live that you want your children to live. Don’t be a “do as I say and not as I do” parent.
And to quote Eleanor Roosavelt
“Learn from the mistakes of others. You can’t live long enough to make them all yourself.”
If you could spend a day and learn from the mistakes everyone has mad until now or a lifetime learning those same ones on your own. Which would you choose?
Thank you again to everybody that commented. I appreciate you stopping by and making your voice heard.